Dear Jenny McCarthy

Much to the dismay of public health professionals across the nation, you’ve been given a new chance in the spotlight thanks to your new co-hosting gig on ABC’s The View. Congratulations! From MTV icon in the days when they still played some music to public menace, you’ve come a long way.

We all know you’re not a fan of vaccines; some days you blame them for your son’s autism and some days you claim you just want them “safer”, but you’ve contributed to a world where fewer children are vaccinated against preventable diseases. According to there have been 118,794 cases of vaccine preventable diseases in the United States since you started telling people vaccines were scary.

And how did you make vaccines seem so scary? Did you tell people vaccines would kill their children? No, you told them vaccines would break their children, that they would make their children defective rejects – like yours. I often get offended by the way you speak about autistic children, on behalf of my son and on behalf of my autistic friends. But the way you speak about your own son makes me weep.

Whether your son is autistic or has some other condition or is an “indigo baby” like you once claimed, dear Jenny, you speak of having him as if it were some cross you had to bear. Children listen – even non-verbal children – and they pick up on how their parents talk about them. Speak to and about him kindly now, while there is time to repair some of the damage.

Accept your son. Love him for who he is. Stop publicly flogging him for failing to meet your expectations. This may not be the child you asked for or the child you wanted, but this is the child you have and you owe it to him to love him with all your heart. You brought him into this world with the intention of parenting him. You owe it to him to see this through and to do it right. He does not owe you being a different child, the one you really wanted.

I had planned to write you an angry letter, about how your attempts to use autistic children as scare tactics makes the world a more hostile place for my son and the children and adults like him. But honestly, I just worry about your son. I worry that you having a fresh new microphone on The View will only give you more opportunities to let the world know you don’t think your son is good enough.

Please reconsider everything.


Mother of an autistic son