On Mean Girls and Confidence

As a young woman in a misogynistic culture, I wanted people to know I “wasn’t like other girls.” I was intimidated by confident, feminine women. I didn’t think I could do what they did, so I devalued their skill set and their strengths. I identified with Buffy, not Cordelia. With Cady or even Janis, definitely not Regina.

But as I’ve grown, I’ve come to realize I am like other girls, and that’s not a bad thing at all. So today a post celebrating Mean Girls of Pop Culture (when I was still young enough to be aware of it) and the lessons I learned from them.

Cher from Clueless


I guess it’s open to debate how “mean” Cher really is. What she taught me was how to make my lack of interest in a man truly known – just shove him away from me with full force while yelling. For a bonus and to make sure he gets the point, say “As IF!” loudly for all to hear.

Quinn from Daria


Quinn taught me that being cute isn’t about being a certain size, but about having a certain outlook on life. As she said “Cute is not a look. It’s an attitude. It’s a way of being.”

Cordelia from Buffy


While it’s easy to overlook Cordelia’s academic achievements, she maintained high grades while being highly involved in extra curricular activities and avoiding being eaten by monsters on a weekly basis. Cordelia also knew how to spend her time on her goals, not anyone else’s.

Regina from Mean Girls


We can’t have a post about Mean Girls without discussing Queen Bee of them all, Regina George. Regina taught me about social exchanges, how to keep someone wanting more, and how to tell a guy off entirely.

What are some life lessons you’ve learned from Mean Girls of TV, movies, or books?

1 thought on “On Mean Girls and Confidence

  1. Lucille Bluth on self-assuredness and passive aggression: “If that’s a veiled criticism about me, I won’t hear it and I won’t respond to it.”

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